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Originally Posted by Acajack
I had wonderful parents so I don't want to bitch against them, but sometimes I wish they had pushed me a bit more: in school especially and also in activities I guess.
Looking back I realize I had an incredible amount of freedom to decide what I wanted to do (though I was reasonably self-motivated in school) but do wonder what could have been if I had been pushed like my kids have been by my wife and I. (Not obsessively so, just enough.)
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I feel this 100%. As a kid my parents were pushovers. The second I indicated I didn't want to do an activity, they pulled me out of it. If I didn't like supper they would always make something else for me. And they never made me do chores or clean my room.
I spent a good deal of my early to mid 20s learning how to be a functional human and even now at age 30 I still struggle with basic housework.
One of my worries is that if/when I have kids I'll swing too much the other way and be too strict and raise kids who'll hate me.