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Originally Posted by kwoldtimer
This "incel" thing is new to me. Back in the day, they were known as "losers". I guess that faded away once everybody started getting a trophy ....
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As the parent of kids now in high school who've been consistently in the upper 90s since the beginning of elementary I can confirm to you that not everyone gets a trophy.
In fact, more often than not it's the underachievers that get the trophies for actually doing a bit of work, or simply being less bothersome to the others.
Kids of mine have finished the *entire year* with a final mark of 100% and seen the academic excellence award go to "Stevie" (name changed to protect the innocent, although...) for stopping throwing his personal stuff and other items like chairs at other kids halfway through the year... this was an "improvement" that needed to be rewarded.
It's a bit better in high school I must admit. Or at least where we go but elementary is just insane right now in its race to the bottom (nivellement par le bas).
I guess the rationale is that self-motivated kids like mine don't need a pat on the back as much as Stevie does - and it's true to a point. It doesn't seem to bother them much at all, whereas it used to enrage my wife and I quite a bit. (We kept this mostly to ourselves.)
And of course I haven't mentioned all the resources devoted to bringing the Stevies of the world up to speed (if only basically) whereas there is comparatively little if anything devoted to providing an extra push to high achievers who could go that much further.
Again, high school is a bit better but it really depends on the program and the school, and often parents have to seek these things out themselves. And pay extra too more often than not.